It’s shocking to know that my sister-in-law had a stomach cancer and she took the surgery a few days ago. She has two daughters and is younger than me. Fortunately, she could be cut out all the bad tissue. She said she had a terrible pain now, but would be fine in a few weeks. I’m really relieved to hear so from her. She found it by her office’s health check. After you hit 35, you could not be too carefull about your health. You are still as young as before mentally, but physically, failure of your body has accumulated secretly.
Anyway, in your culture, when you visit his/her hospital to say hello, what do you bring? Flowers? Books?
I gave her money. It might be weird to people from other culture, but it’s quite normal in Japan. It’s not because you don’t want to be bothered to think about the best gift for her, but it’s because of the feeling kind of you want to give anything she wants but you don’t know what you’re supposed to buy, so please get them by herself with your money. AND, you’re supposed to put your money in the special envelope called “noshi-bukuro”.
Noshi-bukuro has some types.
You can see one big difference between them? Yes,the shape of the ribbons! The left one doesn’t have loopes, so it won’t be loosened. But the another one has loopes and it will be loosened. This is important. “It won’t be loosened” represents “It won’t happen again.” and the another one, the ribbon with loopes means “This (happy) thing will happen again”. So, you might know which one you should choose when you put the money into one of them for the sick person? Yes, it is the left one. That means this thing won’t happen again. You never use this ribbon and this envelope again.
You choose the right one for the birthday or any happy events that you wish it happens again and again.
So, one more question! Which one you should choose for the WEDDING??
The answer is the left one! You know the wedding is supposed to be only once! 😀
It seems tricky, but don’t worry, we are also not so sure about these old ceremonial things. I always doublecheck it on the net!
These are for the funeral!! They have several envelopes depend on the religion!
P.S. You don’t write the kanji letters “御祝” on that envelope for the sick person. Than means “celebrating”. You should write “お見舞い” instead!! I just couldn’t find a good picture!