I’ve just come back home from a party held by a German couple. It was nice. The people were frank and international. The meals were really delicious, too. But got exhausted because I had to keep talking loudly in a noisy room and you know, you’re supposed to keep yourself up in such a place, right?
The party. There is no such a habit in a normal Japanese society. I mean some Japanese who work with westerners or likes the western habits does have a party, but most of the Japanese, they have a party only with their own family, relatives or very close friends when they have a special event like birthday. So, they seldom party just for having fun or to mingle your friends with one another.
I’ve attended to these parties in western style since I got married with my husband, who is the Japanese language teacher, so I got used to it these days, but I love rather watching people than talking. I always wonder in a party room, ” For what is this party held?” or “For whom?” The host couple seemed quite busy, especially the wife was terribly occupied with so many things. The party was almost end and some guests had already gone when she could have a seat with some cold lasagna finally. I could talk to her only when I was introduced to her by my husband. The most of the guest looked happy, maybe. But I always wonder you really enjoy the party from the heart? Is it a kind of ritual thing? Have you ever felt it as an obligation? No offence to the western custom but I just wonder what’s the real purpose to have a party? Have you ever been obsessed by not having a bad one? Have you ever been worrying about the reputation about your party next day? Doesn’t it bother you?