I have a friend having one 8 year old child. She and I were co-workers at the flower shop where I used to work about 10 years ago. Since then we’ve been good friends. We got married with each husband and became mothers, so we can’t hang out together as before but it’s nice and easy to talk about your trouble to an old friend because she knows very well about you who used to be so immature. You don’t need to pretend someone at all.
Anyway, the point is, she got a problem. She has gone to her daughter’s elementary school with her daughter every single days since her daughter entered there. So, it’s been for 2 years and 2 months now. Her daughter, call her here as “Y”, can’t go by herself because the mass people makes Y so nervous. Y can be good among only a couple of kids. Y can also attend the class with her mother, but only with her mother! not father, not grandmother!
Y has come to my house several times. She lives far from us, so we can’t meet so often, but every time Y comes here, she and my kids play on the beach and they seem very good friends. Y is a very beautiful, cheerful, happy girl. It’s unbelievable to imagine that Y can not go to school by herself. Her mother is also very sensible, so we have been able to be good friends over ten years! I don’t think she made a big mistake to raise her daughter in some point. You know there’s no perfect parents in this world. She might be a bit worrier, but it can be considered as normal, I bet.
She and Y have fought sometimes, of course. You can easily imagine how stressful to go with your kids to school everyday, and spend times doing nothing but just sitting in your kid’s class room! She has had a counseling from teachers, the principle of the school, and a specialist. They seem supportive but are not effective, I would say!! Their opinion is it’s the best and only way just to keep coming to school. Don’t quit! Just keep coming! and wait the day when Y finally finds her deal by herself. I know! I know what they say but the person who have all burden now is my friend! I’m so sorry for her, but nobody can take her place now.
To make things worse, the school got the ANONYMOUS letter that blames her!!! It’s unfair to send anonymously, don’t you think? It’s so mean! I think she is not supposed to say anything to the anonymous letter at all, but the school wants to her to make a little speech about her situation to parents of Y’s class after the parent’s day. She is matured, not like me, so she will speak to parents. Now she is wondering what and how? You know, women love gossip? There are some people who really love taking things skewed! I want to give any advice as possible as I can. But it seems complicated. Do you have any?